Only they know whether they are communicating with you out of simple friendship or whether they are keeping up with you because they think that there might be some future romantic connection.
My point is that comparing yourself and your journey to others is a counterproductive behavior. Long story, but whenever he made me feel bad, I had this astonishing little person to hold so I let myself disappear into sensuous baby twilight zone. Our Salt Lake County singles are in the 801385 area code, and might live in these or other zip codes: 84171, 84121, 84118, 84107, 84123, 84157, 84117, or 84141 personals.
Each situation is different, so I’m hesitant to offer general advice, but if things get bad enough that you fear for your wellbeing, and you feel safe enough to do so, please consider calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Edit: There is now an ongoing educational series exploring the forms of control and abuse apparently highlighted in this blog.
Additionally, as a heads up, it’s worth noting that in providing a concrete story and examples, this blog has apparently had the unintended side effect of helping a number of abuse survivors come to terms with their own relationships (and from what I understand, causing distress to some others who have not yet come to terms).